WORDS OF WISDOM
WORDS OF WISDOM
It’s nearly here, 2020
Yes we have Christmas coming and then the New Year’s festivities....what next?
Whilst I’m not a fan of wishing my life away I am a fan of planning, preparing to the best of my ability and then letting go.
Why not get a handle on your 2020 by starting with a plan.
Create it now and enjoy the holiday season knowing you have your starter kit for 2020 in progress.
How effective are your New Year’s Resolutions?
‘New Year’s Resolutions’ or steadfast goals, which do you prefer?
Generally ‘New Year’s Resolutions’ are often made on a whim, which fades with the sun somewhere between the 3rd & 10th January as you say to yourself ‘I’ll continue with being resolute, tomorrow, next week or next year.’
Turning your ideas, dreams, wishes or aspirations into specific goals doesn’t come with the same pressures as opting for ‘New Year’s Resolutions’.
Goal setting and planning when done in your own time provides you with greater options, space and resources to achieve them.
Guilt can be an expensive emotion, often experienced with neither reward nor added value. I’m not talking about the guilt where you have committed a crime in the eyes of the law therefore punitive action is required or the feeling of guilt when you have wilfully and knowingly committed an ethical or moral wrongdoing, let's park those for now and move on.
To the type of guilt defined as; the feeling of responsibility, culpability or remorse that you hold for having committed a perceived wrong; or where you feel you have failed in an obligation, the type of guilt where you self-punish, whatever your preferred choice of self-punishment is.
I’ve been responsible (use of the word guilty has been carefully swerved here) of this in the past, I also often hear others talking about how guilty they feel; about something they’ve done, something they feel they should have done or worse, they feel guilty when someone else has deliberately gone out of the way to manipulate them into feeling guilty.
I want to challenge your thinking, your feeling of guilt is a choice, things could be different!!
Do you want it to be?
Have you been experiencing challenges with your levels of self-belief and self-confidence? Do you often compare yourself to others usually elevating what they have and what they have achieved far above what you believe about yourself?
How often do we compare ourselves to others whom we believe to be living in the perfect kingdom when peaking in through the tiny window to their world? Rather than stirring you up to achieve more, does this comparison grip and impair you, so much so that you do nothing but overanalyse and compare even more? Would you be surprised to know that you are not alone?
We often compare ourselves to others without even realising what we are doing. Very few of us use what we observe in others as a way to actually focus on what we want for ourselves, strengthen our weaknesses or elevate our own self-beliefs. Instead the time is spent thinking negatively about how we view ourselves, about what we don’t have and how we aren’t where we want to be in life.
I wrote this from the beautiful sunny Island of Guadeloupe, one of the French Caribbean Islands. Look it up and if you ever get the chance go and visit. We chose to go there for a holiday during the festive period of 2015. I love to travel as often as possible and Christmas is a great time to experience different places.
I had a very interesting experience whilst there, which inspired me to write this. One day I went for a run, a ritual of mine that I practice wherever I am, home or away. There are a lot of steep hills on Basseterre the Western Island of Guadeloupe, which for me makes running a great challenge. Also a challenge, are the stray dogs that sometimes roam freely, bark at me and sometimes follow me. I am never quite sure whether they will chase and attack or if they are just lonely and looking for company. Whilst running I took a terrible fall, which left me rather shaken. I have been running long distances including hill running for many years now and I have never had such a harsh fall.
Personal change begins with a desire or a wish, without the desire for something different, change will be more difficult to apply. Change will begin for you when you realise and recognise that you want something different and that it is a personal choice, If change is enforced on you without your buy-in you will feel somewhat disconnected, which can lead to further challenges.
A great way to engage and change your mindset is to start with some basics. Start to build your mind so that it becomes stronger and brings firm foundations to achieving what you want. Read more for some starter tips that have helped me.
I'm older and wiser than I look. After many years working in the corporate world I decided to branch out on my own.......Brave eh?