WORDS OF WISDOM
WORDS OF WISDOM
How to be more confident, supporting Women in Business & Beyond. Bridging the gap between Ambition and Wellbeing.
It’s nearly here, 2020
Yes we have Christmas coming and then the New Year’s festivities....what next?
Whilst I’m not a fan of wishing my life away I am a fan of planning, preparing to the best of my ability and then letting go.
Why not get a handle on your 2020 by starting with a plan.
Create it now and enjoy the holiday season knowing you have your starter kit for 2020 in progress.
How effective are your New Year’s Resolutions?
‘New Year’s Resolutions’ or steadfast goals, which do you prefer?
Generally ‘New Year’s Resolutions’ are often made on a whim, which fades with the sun somewhere between the 3rd & 10th January as you say to yourself ‘I’ll continue with being resolute, tomorrow, next week or next year.’
Turning your ideas, dreams, wishes or aspirations into specific goals doesn’t come with the same pressures as opting for ‘New Year’s Resolutions’.
Goal setting and planning when done in your own time provides you with greater options, space and resources to achieve them.
What do you want to achieve for yourself in 2020?
If there is something on your wish list that you want to achieve in 2020, now would be a good time to start planning for it, before the holiday season is upon you and your idea falls rapidly down your priority list.
Announcing to yourself and the world (or your immediate family or friends) on New Year’s Eve that you’re going to achieve or quit (insert your X here) puts pressure on you, as this probably means you’ve not prepared yourself with the mindset and resources to succeed.
What could you do instead?
In the run up to the end of the year set a SMART Goal for the beginning or first quarter of next year, start now.
What do you want to achieve or be different in 2020?
Write this as a SMART Goal
SMART Goal revision:
Specific – State what you will do. I will……ensure it is well defined and clear
Measurable – Provide a way to evaluate. How will you measure that you’ve achieved your goal?
Action-oriented – What action steps will you take to achieve it and is it attainable?
Relevant - Is it pertinent to you and what you want to achieve in life. Is it also a realistic goal?
Time bound – State when you will achieve it by, which will help your accountability and focus.
“I will write 2 articles per month in 2020 to develop and improve my writing skills”
There is no ambiguity in the goal
It is Specific to what I want to achieve
It is definitely Measurable
I will need to write (Action) 2 articles per month
It is Relevant to me for my overarching goal of becoming a published Author
It is also Time bound.
Your Honesty Mirror
Ask yourself the following questions to help with your mindset & motivation.
How committed am I to making this happen?
Where does this sit on my priority list?
Is it important to me?
What is the first step I will to take?
Who can help me and be my accountability partner?
What resources do I need/already have?
Set Goal, Plan & Evaluate
I’m a person who very much believes in mindfulness and the present moment but I do set goals, plan and take action but I also let go because I know that all is not in my control and I’m ok with that.
This relieves some of the pressure I used to place on myself of wanting to be in control, which in itself can cause worry, unease and is tiring, keeping this up over a period of time is also stressful.
Doing what I can by goal setting, planning, taking action and then letting go means I enjoy the process of creating, doing and learning. If things don’t work out how I envisaged or wanted, I go back to the drawing board and evaluate.
I can then do something different based on a specific set of results or known outcomes, rather than spending time worrying about failure or what I thought the outcome was going to be.
By planning and taking action, more often than not I end up celebrating success.
Using your Hindsight for better Foresight
You know yourself better than anybody else does, you know your strengths and what you want to improve. Use what you’re learned about yourself and the world around you in 2019 and previous years to help and support what you want to achieve in 2020.
Use your observations, sense of self and what you already know or can learn from to avoid mistakes.
Choose to create time to set goals periodically throughout the year so you don’t put pressure on yourself at specific times of the year such as holiday periods.
Enjoy celebrating your successes of 2019 and embrace your vision for the year to come.
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