WORDS OF WISDOM
WORDS OF WISDOM
Things have changed dramatically over the past few weeks.
If you’re well, following social distancing and/or remote working you might be struggling with being inside or having a lack of variety compared to what you’re used to.
The Emails, WhatsApp, Messages and Social Media posts I’m seeing are asking for more ‘Face Times’, virtual meet ups and ideas for what to do to past the time.
If you’re used to having a vibrant social life and now find yourself home alone only going out for essentials you might be finding this very difficult and ever so lonely, missing the physical proximity to other humans and what ‘social connection’ brings.
This isn’t going to last forever, be creative with your perspectives and what you can do.
Here are some tips and ideas for you:
Catch-ups & Check-Ins
Make a list of people you haven’t seen or spoken to in a while, catch up with them one by one with an audio or video call, check in with them and see if they are ok.
It’s nearly here, 2020
Yes we have Christmas coming and then the New Year’s festivities....what next?
Whilst I’m not a fan of wishing my life away I am a fan of planning, preparing to the best of my ability and then letting go.
Why not get a handle on your 2020 by starting with a plan.
Create it now and enjoy the holiday season knowing you have your starter kit for 2020 in progress.
How effective are your New Year’s Resolutions?
‘New Year’s Resolutions’ or steadfast goals, which do you prefer?
Generally ‘New Year’s Resolutions’ are often made on a whim, which fades with the sun somewhere between the 3rd & 10th January as you say to yourself ‘I’ll continue with being resolute, tomorrow, next week or next year.’
Turning your ideas, dreams, wishes or aspirations into specific goals doesn’t come with the same pressures as opting for ‘New Year’s Resolutions’.
Goal setting and planning when done in your own time provides you with greater options, space and resources to achieve them.
This article is inspired by ‘The International Day of Happiness’, celebrated every year on March 20th, which leads me to ask how much do you value happiness in your life?
How important to you is being happy? How much consideration do you put into what it means to be truly happy?
What does happy actually mean to you?
If I were to ask what your default state of mind is what would you say. Joyful, angry, calm, grouchy, excited, miserable, confrontational, contented, stressed or [insert your own version]
What is your default state of mind?
If I were to also ask what is you preferred state of mind, what would you say? I imagine most of you might say something positive. Rarely would we admit to saying we prefer a less than positive state of mind, yet we often behave as though this is the case.
If I were to ask the people closest to you what would they say your default state of mind is? Go ahead and ask them for me.
On March 8th we celebrated 'International Women's Day' with it's theme of #balanceforbetter, a campaign which will continue throughout the year.
I believe it should continue beyond 2019 so we carry on creating balance in the world. The challenges we currently face won’t go away if we just quit taking action once we reach the end of the year. As with any change, behavioural or otherwise commitment and perseverance is required or progress will stop.
The ‘Balance for Better’ campaign looks at building a gender balanced world, which is essential for businesses, economies and communities to thrive.
Diversity in thinking, perspectives, learning styles and personalities is a must for success in business and these other areas, gender balance allows all of these and many more attributes to create and enhance success.
We already know how important balance is in all aspects of life, it’s something we can all work towards creating for ourselves and for others in varying forms.
The campaign theme emphasises that we all have a part to play to make gender balance happen. Including both women and men in the conversations for change will enable collaborative action.
Here’s an example of how an open conversation can change assumptions and perspectives, which are very important for working towards gender parity.
Are you over 40? Thinking of a career change? Is your heart set on doing something different? Does your optimism, enthusiasm and confidence wane at the idea of changing careers at this age?
Individuals over the age of 40 who’ve been successful in changing careers do something very different from those who haven’t been so successful. They are focused on what they want, not on what they don’t want and most certainly don’t listen to societal naysayers.
Societal norms are generally not designed to encourage people to take risks. They can also contribute greatly to how we think and the decisions we make. Is what I’m doing normal or will my actions meet with approval from others, are questions you might ask yourself.
Ignoring what the world might’ve been thinking I did a complete about turn and changed career when I was 44 and I haven’t looked back. I am determined not to have any regrets in life or if I do they will be nominal.
A move from what you know into the unknown at any age might cause varying degrees of emotions ranging from excitement to fear along with a degree of uncertainly but if your desire or drive is strong enough you can work your way through these range of emotions, hopefully making decisions that feel right for you.
True Diversity and Inclusion cannot exist without very honest and sometimes difficult conversations.
Diversity and inclusion are high on the agenda of many organisations, yet I’m still having conversations where women share with me the most inappropriate things that have been said to them both in one to one conversations and open forums.
I’m witnessing the fall out from behaviour that falls short of respect and acceptance for others. How can we as a collective promote a greater level of respect within organisations, so this behaviour becomes something that happens less and dare I say it disappear.
True, I’m only hearing one side of the story and as the saying goes there are three sides to every story yours, mine and the truth, but based on my own experiences and the upset I see being caused by what is being said, I find it difficult not to believe what has been shared with me.
What does success mean to you?
What are your motivational factors for success in your personal and professional life?
Are these motivational factors for success Internal or External?
What drives you? What is your raison d’être? Do you know? Have you ever thought about it or is it too heavy?
Internal or External Motivation
Most of us are taught to study, work hard, buy a home and have a family and if you’re able to manage these you’ll be happy.
What if this isn’t enough? What about emotional wellbeing, fulfillment, peace, contentment or ‘insert’ any of the other things that are important to you.
Hopefully you’ve read part one of “What to do when self-doubt gets in your way”.
If you haven’t already please go back and have a read, posted earlier in October you can then use the two together as a helpful guideline.
I wrote about a number of things that will help to provide you with a new perspective along with action steps especially for those struggling with challenges related to self-doubt.
Many of the things I mention you might already be aware of. You may of heard or read about them before, but there is a difference between being aware of or familiar with and putting these practices into action.
Strictly speaking if you are committed to the processes I’ve spoken about or similar and taking action, your self-doubt challenges would be minimal or non-existent.
In short, stop being aware of or vaguely familiar with all the advice you’ve read, listened to or have been given about improving your self-doubt. Put these useful tools, techniques and practices into action step by step so you can reap the benefits and experience a significant change in how you feel about yourself and the world around you.
Take action and exercise your right to be free of self-doubt.
I'm older and wiser than I look. After many years working in the corporate world I decided to branch out on my own.......Brave eh?