WORDS OF WISDOM
WORDS OF WISDOM
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A very simple definition of mindfulness is; to focus only on the present moment in whatever you are doing. Focus on your thoughts, your feelings and your senses, be present, be aware, be accepting.
How hard can this be?
In today’s mostly fast paced, technology driven, results oriented existence with our focus on multitasking, can we make space for mindfulness?
Yes of course we can, life is about options and therefore choice. Choosing to make time for finding ways to reduce stress and live a more balanced life is surely worth a go.
Mindfulness can be helpful in allowing you to feel calmer, less stressed, more connected and more at peace with yourself and the world around you.
Is it for everyone? No, if you are struggling with mental health issues or feeling particularly vulnerable you should consult your GP or a specialist.
Depending on what floats your boat, what you want in your life and what you are willing to try in order to create a more calming, focused existence for yourself, mindfulness is a remarkable space and place to carve out for yourself.
If you are interested or curious about developing ways to adopt a calmer approach to life, which will support you in gaining more clarity and focus then its definitely worth not just trying mindfulness but also committing to it and not giving up at the first hurdle.
Mindfulness is not a magic pill and for most of us it will take practice to become better at it, as indeed with most things. There are a number of different mindfulness exercises that you can perform. Starting with the basics as an introduction will give you an idea of the wonderful benefit’s that can be achieved through taking time out to enter into this space for yourself, you can then work on developing and improving the process discovering what works for you and your preferences.
Mindfulness helps to promote and increase your wellbeing, it also brings a sense of balance and provides you with a heightened ability to observe and focus on what brings you fulfillment, which of course is also conducive to overall good health and a well balanced mind. It is a wonderful practice to help with deterring moments of stress and anxiousness and also encourages you to be present in the moment to be able to enjoy and take the greatest pleasure from all manner of tasks simple or otherwise; such as work, listening to music, spending time with friends or a loved one, even washing the dishes (yes this task can be enjoyed).
Once you start with and conquer some basic strategies, building on from these will support you in being able to stay focused in situations that you are in, conversations you are having, tasks that you are performing, even simply just being still, being present in that moment noticing everything with your senses engaged, being aware of your thoughts allowing them to present themselves but without judgment from yourself or without you being critical of them, chiding yourself or rushing and chasing the next best thing that you think you might need or want to do.
Mindfulness is about slowing down and being an observer of your thoughts and who you are, with a view to acknowledging what serves you positively and moving on from what doesn’t.
It may be very difficult to start with especially for those of us who have an active mind but as with other new habits that we want to introduce into our lives, with regular (daily) practice these techniques can be greatly improved to the point where it takes no effort at all, to carry out the process.
If you follow the process of mindfulness on a daily basis, little by little you will experience a shift in your mindset and the way you behave, ultimately you will reap the benefits of these techniques.
You will become proficient and skilled at enjoying the present moment, living in the now and you will generally become more relaxed and less anxious about life tomorrow and what the future will bring. That is not to say that you will not plan for the future but life will not revolve around chasing ‘something else’ but instead allowing you to enjoy ‘your here and now’.
Another wonderful benefit is once you become an expert you will also be able to switch it on and off whenever you need to, but more than likely it will surround you sublimely and silently in everything that you do.
Go ahead, give it a go if you only choose to change one thing that allows you to experience amazing peace of mind, fulfillment and balance in your life, let it be. celebrating your now with mindfulness.
“When the student is ready the teacher will appear”
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