WORDS OF WISDOM
WORDS OF WISDOM
How to develop more self-belief. How can I become more self-confident
There are many factors that can affect our-self confidence these can come in all shapes and sizes. Let’s start with self-belief, over time or at a given moment in time a lack of self-belief is one of the key contributing influences on your level of self-confidence. If you are also feeling tired, experience a negative comment from someone, or are having what might be considered by some to be a bad day may also detract from your level of self-belief and therefore what you feel self-confident about.
For those who have suffered with confidence challenges for a long time the probability is that a specific intervention or course of action may be required to build a (mostly) consistent level of self-confidence going forward. Here are some basic ways that can start you off, which you can build on overtime. These tips might also be particularly useful when you have a specific event that you want to get through, feeling at the top of your game and brimming with confidence so that you can truly enjoy your experience.
You can do these exercises just before you need a zap of elevated confidence or practice over time to build your self-belief so that you are always armed with the confidence you need for any situation. Firstly for these exercises make some time and space to be somewhere so that you can focus on you.
1. Build on successes you have previously achieved.
Think of a time where you have been successful in doing something, which allowed you to feel good or great about yourself. This could be something small or a major success in your life. Close your eyes if you want to and visualise what you looked like, how you felt and what this success meant to you. With this picture, focus inwardly on this feeling of self-achievement, enhance the picture so that the feeling is powerful and strong for you and store this picture in your minds eye. Identify a success that is truly personal to you that will allow you to recall this feeling on demand whenever you need to, which will support you to enhance your confidence.
2. What is your desired outcome?
When you desire confidence how do you want to feel? What are you wearing? What do you look like? What is your posture like? How are you standing or sitting? Focus on what you will feel like when you have your desired outcome of self-confidence. Act as if you have what you want right now. What can you see, hear and feel? What is the impact on your body language? Pay attention to this. Celebrate your success as if you have it now. I bet you’re smiling right now.
3. Think about something where you lack confidence
Act as if someone you know well has brought this story to you. What will you say to them? What power will you hand to them during your conversation? How will you lift them up? What inspiration will you provide for them? How are they feeling after they have spoken to you? Transfer all of this back to yourself. How do you feel now about your self-belief?
4. Set yourself a small task
Give yourself a task, something that you may have been putting off for a long time. What is the first action step that you will take? Write it down? What will this small goal or accomplishment bring you? What will it bring to your self-belief? When will you take this first action step? How do you feel about your self-belief after you have taken action?
5. Build on your strengths
What do you do well? What are your strengths? How will you use your strengths to build on what you want? How can you consistently encompass your strengths to support you in achieving your goal of self-confidence?
These are 5 very simple steps that you can use to build your self-belief and therefore your self-confidence. We all have a fear of something, the only way to move beyond the fear is to take action. With action you begin to move past the fear and start to build a new belief system. You will then send signals of success to your mind rather than, I couldn’t possibly…….
I'm older and wiser than I look. After many years in the corporate world I decided to branch out on my own…brave eh? My tenacity, resilience and wonderful sense of fulfilment from what I do keeps me doing.