Mind Matters: Mind your language

What does your language say about you?

I can’t help it I listen and I listen well, It’s been this way for as long as I can remember. I can tell a lot about an individual by what they say about themselves and even more by what they say about others when they’re out of earshot.

Our language demonstrates our beliefs, thoughts and emotions. Listen closely you will hear a pattern relating to all sorts, self-confidence, certainty, frustration, anger, pain, tolerances, contentment, fulfilment and ego, to name a few. Our language can sometimes be used as a window to look into what’s going on for us at a particular time.

I prefer not to judge although this isn’t the case all of the time, the truth is a lifetime of judging can be hard to move way from. This non-judgemental side of me is part of who I am, who I’ve become and it’s also why I’ve been privy to people around the globe sharing their deeply personal stories with me, within a short space of time after meeting me. My non-judgement allows them to trust me and feel safe when they’re speaking with me.

My training and the path I’ve chosen to take also allows me to listen and converse freely without judgement. On a day when I’m out and about and not paying close enough attention the judgement fairy may seek to creep in, but I’m observant of this.

I hear people saying things and they don’t seem to realise what they’re telling themselves. They want to be more confident and feel better about themselves but they say, I’m not confident, I’m not very good at, I could never do X and don’t give it a second thought because these thoughts and what they say to themselves have been there for so long, they don’t yet know different.

​For the most part until we feel a deep level of emotional pain that becomes overwhelming, deemed as too much to bear or when we’re prompted by something that screams change these thought patterns and behaviours will continue.

Some do recognise the limitations of their thought patterns and language and realise something different is the order of the day, which is great. Some however may not recognise these limitations or will choose not to change,

If this is you, what can you do differently?

A simple way to start is to recognise some of the language you use and ask yourself is it helping me to get where I want to be and what I want in life, If it does great. If not what is it that you want and what will you need to change?

One of my mantras is to start the day off with the thought of a wonderful day ahead of me and no matter what happens I won’t get pissed off or annoyed or if I do it won’t be for too long. You might say it’s a bit cheesy and cliché you couldn’t possibly stay positive all day long but work with me here, what if you could?

It wasn’t always this way for me but I’ve decided I’ve seen enough sh!t and misery to last me a lifetime, so I’m doing my thing,

Some people believe that it’s not possible to have a great day all day everyday. This may very well be the case because unexpected things happen but the next steps and results are all in the way you choose to handle them.

For me I’ve already seen enough pain, suffering and negativity in my lifetime, so my motivation might be different from yours. I do work on the premise that the way I feel is a choice. It wasn’t always this way but now it is.

So how about it, mind your language for a day, then a week then a month and so on and see what happens.

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Rosemarie

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